Where did all that time go? You know you’re getting old when your little brother hits 70

The Miles brothers Jeremy (left) and Simon back in the early 1970s. Photo: Hattie Miles

Words: Jeremy Miles

Something very strange will occur this weekend. Tomorrow my little brother is celebrating his 70th birthday, a landmark that he will no doubt take in his stride but one that is suddenly making me feel rather old.

For Simon is more than three-and-a-half years younger than me and if he really is 70 (and sadly the calendar doesn’t lie) it must mean that I am rattling at full tilt towards an age where delusions of youth frankly no longer cut it. 

I can’t pretend any more. What I can do though is wonder how the hell this happened and muse on two lives that have followed parallel but very different paths in the creative world. 

Simon and Jeremy in 1955. Photo: Bill Stokes

One minute Simon and I were children of the 50s and 60s and now what seems like a mere handful of years later, a half a century has passed and although we don’t feel particularly ancient, the heroes of our youth are making frequent appearances in the obituary columns alongside gradually increasing numbers of our direct contemporaries. It kind of tells you something and it is just a little uncomfortable. Where did those years go and how did it come to this?

Today I am a writer looking back on a career that has covered social history, theatre, music and visual arts with a wonderful series of travel gigs thrown in for good measure. It’s been a good life and thankfully it’s still just about chugging along.

Simon is an award winning lighting designer who can reflect on a long and illustrious Emmy-laden Hollywood career which has involved lighting stage, TV shows and videos featuring  Sinatra, Streisand, Ray Charles, Michael Jackson, Liza Minnelli, Kylie Minogue, Michael Buble, Joan Baez and many others. There have also been long-running television variety series like Dancing with the Stars and The Masked Singer.

Feeding pigeons in Trafalgar Square c.1960

It wasn’t always like this of course. After a classic and comfortable post-war upbringing in a family that loved books and theatre, we both started out like so many of our generation seeking adventures in rock and roll. I wrote about it and Simon lived it.

He toured the UK and Europe with everyone from Caravan and Barclay James Harvest to Iggy Pop and Fred ‘Sonic’ Smith. He worked with Blondie, Madness, Wire, Simple Minds, Lene Lovich and Status Quo – a curious slew of musical styles but they all needed lights.

In those early days it was all hair, flares and cheap and sometimes desperate living arrangements. It was tough at times. There was very little money but plenty of grand plans and good friends. To this day memories of those times bring back a distant nostalgic whiff of hashish and patchuli – the pervading bouquet of that unique era that just happened to coincide with our youth.

Slowly we both established our separate ‘grown-up’ careers and since 1981 Simon has lived in California. He has a CV that is considerably more impressive than mine but we’ve both had very interesting lives and met and worked with some fascinating people.

The brothers Miles 21st century version. Photo: Hattie Miles

All in all we’ve both done pretty well. What’s more we’ve never been competitive and even though we live on different continents and don’t see each other as often as we’d like we always enjoy each other’s company.

He’s also a great guy: intelligent, informed, witty, tack-sharp and fun to be with. Not just my brother but one of my favourite people. I hope that his 70th birthday is an absolute blast even if it does make me feel old.

Brothers in covid quarantine: It’s 50 years since we spent this much time together.

The Covid Twins – Jeremy and Simon in Bournemouth … 11.01.22

My wife Hattie and I had two visitors this New Year. One, my brother Simon, was very welcome indeed. The other, his exotic friend, Omicron Variant, was not.

Simon flew in from Los Angeles on the 30th December, eventually arriving via a gruelling six hour transit stop in Dallas that involved, much to his horror, mingling with a massive crowd of hundreds of New Year’s travellers.

Though he, like us, is double vaxxed, boosted and tested negative multiple times both before and after his flight to the UK, by January 4th the almost inevitable had happened. He and I were both positive and effectively under voluntary house arrest.

Happily our symptoms were relatively mild – not much more than a bit of a cough and cold – but it meant that what for Simon was supposed to be a five day flying visit planned between TV lighting jobs in California, became a two week stay durng which we couldn’t go anywhere or see anyone.

It definiteky wasn’t what we had planned. We read, we wrote, we watched TV and caught up on years of conversation. We also gazed longingly at the world beyond our windows while working our way through a couple of boxes of lateral flow tests and waited to be officially declared contagion free. 

Simon finally managed to fly back to California with a clean bill of health on January 12th, arriving just in time to supervise the start of the new series of the US version of The Masked Singer for which he is lighting designer.

Simon, mum and Jeremy more than 50 years ago in Macua

We later worked out that it was the first time for more than 50 years that Simon and I had spent so long in each other’s company. Ths last time was during the school and college holidays in 1970 when we spent a long and lazy summer with our parents in Hong Kong and Macau.

Mollie Moran cooking lunch for two dozen and writing a best seller at the age of 96

Mollie Moran photographed at her Dorset home by Hattie Miles
Mollie Moran photographed at her Dorset home in 2013 by Hattie Miles

It was Mollie Moran’s funeral today. She died just two-and-a-half years short of her 100th birthday. A good innings by anyone’s reckoning but somehow for this former kitchen maid who found literary fame in her nineties it just didn’t seem right. At least she died peacefully in her own bed just a few months after a cancer diagnosis.

I first met Mollie a year ago when I interviewed her about her best-selling upstairs downstairs memoir Aprons and Silver Spoons. Razor sharp and impossibly energetic, she seemed strong and well.  She walked her dog daily, entertained visitors at her Dorset cliff top home, hosted weekly scrabble sessions and each month would invite 25 players from across the southern region to take part in a mini-tournament. Single handedly she would cook for them all, producing a selection that included cottage pie, chicken curry and a variety of puddings. I asked how she managed it. She shrugged and told me: “Oh it’s nothing. After all I don’t do the washing up. I get someone to help with that.” She seemed indestructible. Continue reading “Mollie Moran cooking lunch for two dozen and writing a best seller at the age of 96”